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    Draga Mihaela! Hvala za tvojo odkritost in pogum, da si napisala nekaj kar se je zgodilo meni, njej, njemu..... Jaz bi napisala lahko podobno; le besedo zloraba bi nadomestila npr. z začetniška zaljubljenost, zagnanost, vihravost,ipd. Prvi kontakti z dharmo so vedno zelo močni. N.S. Dalai Lama pogosto pove, da ni priporočljivo spreminjati religije oz. prevzemati nove. Če pa že, se je dobro pripraviti na različne težavice, ... sprememba je strašljiva, ker odkirva novo, neznano, nekaj nad čemer nimamo kontrole. Sem vesela zate, da si uspela dharmo integrirati v svoje življenje:) Malo manj pa sem vesela za vse na tem forumu, ki skoraj po enem mesecu ne prispevajo nebenega svojega komentarja, uvida... No, mogoče pa so vse to že presegli. Še enkrat hvala,da si pokazala ranljiv del sebe in prispevala k človečnosti dharma praktikantov. Tatjana
  2. Tashi Delek! I think real communication between two people is possible only if it is based on equal terms and conditions. Respectful relationship between women and man is grounded by allowing women's to talk about their experiences, about their needs by herself. Me as a women, do not need a man for explaining me what should I feel or perceive as real/reality. It's no need, it's already there/here. When meal gender will stop talking instead of us and interpreted our state of mind, coloured with their projections, real communisation would start. I need to admitted, even not being a nun; it brings up some burning thoughts, when reading some noticeable observations about nun's communities. Do nuns really need supervisors for their way of expressing? If I try to raise my female voice, I take a risk to be labelled as “aggressive, angry, with karmic influence, feminist ... It hurt's and it is sad, but somebody will say it brings some fuel for stronger practice. I'm wondering, is that never-ending sadness what women should transform in order to gain liberation? Nevertheless, beside the practice, we should react in a respectful manner and not putting down our own strength by not talking loudly with our own, female voice. We don't need to nourish men's projections in order to complete our karmic position, but in the meanwhile, just in case we can still secretly pray for fortunate rebirth in men's body. With best wishes, Tatjana
  3. Last week, US Defense Secretary Robert Gates finally said Guantanamo should be closed. President Bush's advisors are split down the middle - and a global outcry could tip the balance and push Bush to close Guantanamo forever. Please sign the petition calling on the US government to close Guantanamo and for its inmates to be tried in a legitimate court or set free: http://www.avaaz.org/en/close_guantanamo
  4. Lama-la celebrated his 4th birthday anniversary on 28 Oct 06, at Kopan. http://www.phuntsokrinpoche.com/ With best wishes, tatjana
  5. I've got on my personalized Yahoo article about Buddhist love written by Lama Surya Das. Take a look; it's worth. You may get a different point of view! "Certainly primary among life's lessons is how to love and to love well, and to BE love, as well to give and receive it. I believe love is central to happiness, growth and fulfillment. How would Buddha love? By seeing every single being, human and otherwise, as fundamentally like himself, and thus able to treat them and love them in the way he would be treated. We call this infinitely benevolent, selfless love, Bodhicitta or the Awakened Heart, the very spirit of enlightenment. Each relationship and every single encounter can be a vehicle for meaningful spiritual connection, through the transformative magic of Bodhicitta, or spiritual love. This is how we love, Buddha-style: impartial to all, free from excessive attachment or false hope and expectation; accepting, tolerant, and forgiving. Buddhist nonattachment doesn't imply complacence or indifference, or not having committed relationships or being passionately engaged with society, but rather has to do with our effort to defy change and resist the fact of impermanence and our mortality. By holding on to that which in any case is forever slipping through our fingers, we just get rope burn. Buddhist love is based on recognizing our fundamental interconnectedness and knowing that all beings are like ourselves in wanting and needing happiness, safety, fulfillment, and not wanting suffering and misery. The Dalai Lama says, "If you want to be wisely selfish, care for others." All the happiness and virtue in this world comes from selflessness and generosity, all the sorrow from egotism, selfishness, and greed. Four Boundless Attitudes Every single encounter can be a vehicle for meaningful spiritual connection. The immaculate image of Buddhist love is the four-armed Avalokitsevara, known as Chenrayzig in Tibet and Kuan Yin in China. Each of his/her four arms represent one of the Four Boundless Attitudes, and each one of her four radiant faces or aspects - peaceful, magnetizing, powerful, and fierce-express one of the four styles or modes of active compassion. The first arm of Buddhist love is maitri or lovingkindness, a boundless feeling of friendliness and wishing well for others. Maitri, or metta in the Pali language, implies friendliness: befriending and accepting yourself, your body and mind, and the world. The second is karuna, or compassion, empathy, being moved by feeling what others feel. The third arm is upeksha, equanimity, recognizing the equality of all that lives. This recognition leads to the wisdom of detachment but not indifference or complacence, which are its near enemies. The fourth arm is mudita, spiritual joy and satisfaction. This includes rejoicing in the virtue and success of others, -- the antidote to envy and jealousy. Cultivate the cling-free relationship The essence of Buddhist relationship is to cultivate the cling-free relationship, enriched with caring and equanimity. It is helpful in intimate relationships to communicate honestly, stay present, tell the truth of your experience using I-statements rather than accusations and judgments, and honor the other enough to show up with an open heart and mind and really listen. Passion becomes compassion when we bring it into the path, when we recognize every moment in life as a possibility of awakening. Human love and sexual consummation can be like the tip of the iceberg of divine love, an ecstatic intimation of eternity, a portal to infinite depths of the groundlessness and boundarylessness that transports us beyond our limited, ego selves. People often ask me how to find their Soul Mate, or even if I believe in such a concept. I think that rather than focusing on past lives or on finding the perfect mate in this world, we would generally do better to work on improving and developing ourselves. Make yourself the "perfect" mate, without being too perfectionistic about it, and you will be a good mate with almost anyone. When your heart is pure, your life and the entire world is pure. We all feel the desire to possess and be possessed, to love and be loved, to connect and be embraced and to belong. However, I think that the most important thing in being together is the tenderness of a good heart. If our relationships aren't nurturing the growth and development of goodness of heart, openness, generosity, authenticity and intimate connection, they are not serving us or furthering a better world. I notice that children let go of anger and would rather be happy than right, unlike so many of us adults. Like them, my dog reminds me that love is a verb, not a noun. Staying present in this very moment, through mindful awareness and paying attention to what is -- rather than dwelling on the past or the future, or on who I think I am and who I imagine others are -- helps free me from excess baggage, anxiety and neurosis - and opens me to love." ________________________________________ Lama Surya Das has spent more than 30 years studying with the great spiritual masters of Asia. He is a leading spokesman for Buddhism and contemporary spirituality, as well as a poet, translator, spiritual teacher, and a lama in the Tibetan Buddhist order. Lama Surya Das is the founder and spiritual director of the Dzogchen Foundation in Massachusetts and California and the author of several books, including the national best-seller "Awakening the Buddha Within: Tibetan Wisdom for the Western World," and is active in interfaith dialogue. He lives in Concord, Massachusetts.
  6. We can simply use question: “How can I help you?†People who are in need, they already feel unpleasant and sometimes they don't want to be treated like an object of someone help. If you ask him/she what I can do for you; this person will feel equal and free to express the need or problem. From my point of view it is matter of genuine relationship between two in which both side should have feeling of respect and sovereignty. Person who needs help is in very fragile, emotional state and can easily fall in feeling of misuse. Regards, tatjana
  7. Tashi Delek! Lama Zopa Rinpoche abut depression and how to transform it. Regards, tatjana Ups.... here it is http://www.lamayeshe.com/lamazopa/advicebo...tions/dep.shtml
  8. Tashi Delek! I strongly agree with Ani-la and Kyenrab. As fare as I understood, they talk about inner state or inner understanding of such situations and problems. Wangmo put more emphasis on outer/conventional reactions. I think both is very important, even more without cultivating bodhicitta, wisdom and good qualities one can not react in a proper way. Trought development of good qualities we intent to become more sensible to such occurrences and it is our duty to raise the voice against any kind of abusive behavior and protect those who need protection. We all know that our society is tend to keep in secret lots of “small abuses”- terrible, but some families keep their secrets and scarifies victims to protect person committing a CRIME. Of who’s good? To protect their society out-fit only! Sorry, for strong emotional impact, but such stories makes me sick , despite all my Buddhists believe. Regards, Tatjana
  9. Tashi Delek Mavrica! maybe you can found here: http://www.lowchensaustralia.com/names/tibetan.htm regards, tatjana
  10. Yes, indeed there are exceptions. Surly, Lama Shenphen Rinpoche is one of them. Regards, tatjana
  11. Tashi Delek! If organizers are not professional and qualified for organizing such events and it was said many times they are not; I do not understand why qualified teachers from different tradition don’t take more “active” role? How can be organizers more mature then teachers? Isn’t also their responsibility to assure conditions for all those people who unsuspicious aproche and take initiation/empowerment? Of course, we create our own karma and we are the only one who pays and makes charges. Caravan passes by and dogs bark. Like nothing is happening, no changes on the horizon. Can degeneration be deeper? Regards, tatjana
  12. Jetsun Pema, H.H. Dalai Lama sister has got reward of honor for 40 years long work concerning Tibetan children living in refugee camps. The event of International childe reward took place in Stockholm, Sweden under auspice of Swedish queen Silvia and Nelson Mandela. With best wishes, tatjana
  13. Endesa Europa , Spanish multinational corporation start to prepare procedure for building up the first of two previously planed terminals for gas liquefaction. The project is in accordance with Italien government (it seems also Slovene government silently agree with). The construction will take place close to Slovenian border. If they succeed in this terrifying construction they will dally swap away the 800 ton of toxic acid directly in to the Trieste bay in order to prevent tubes to be close up with algae. Who cares for living begins in the sea? Take action! Here is link for petition http://terminal.mladina.si/. tatjana
  14. Tashi Delek! Chabi has opened new dimension/direction to this discoussion, what I rally like it. Since, this forum is open for anybody’s opinion, I think we are not obligate to be in 100% accordence. Yes, we have different minds and different energies. At last Lama Shenphen Rinpoche’s teaching, I’ve understood, that sometimes some discusions take negative stream and along it ended up in it’s own opposite. If I got the idea, I think it is a matter of enery which drives one particular belief not only regulations and priciples (in this case about Budha bar). From my point of view the main objectives conserning Buddha bar are not “to close the case”, but remain open for others opinions, yet not to cast off imediatly our own. Like this we can also broaden our understanding and develope good religious qualities, which I have alredy posted. With best wishes, Tatjana P.S.: - The Buddhism’s primary focus is on the Buddha’s teaching and not on the Buddha’s person; ofcourse not to abandone respectfulness toward Buddha’s appearance.
  15. Tashi Delek, Tank you. It seems that a lot of practices can be understand and practising within different levels. Good to know to avoid confusion. Best regards, tatjana
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