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  1. Sorry to be chatty, but i have curiosity. Is non-bewilderment the opposite of confusion? More like clarity?
  2. i think i understand now. Knowing shame without guilt is very freeing. It does free up the mind to act. Thank you for the short teaching, Lama Shenphen; i guess i needed it.
  3. Ah yes, i see. Thanks again. i found this at www.virtuescience.com : Buddhism 1. The Two Virtues being of much help: 1. Mindfulness (Sati) 2. Self-possession (Sampajanna) 2. The Two Virtues protecting the world: 1. Moral shame (Hiri) 2. Moral fear (Ottapa) 3. The Two Virtues making resplendent: 1. Patience (Khanti) 2. Gentleness (Soracca) 4. The Two Virtues conducive to excellence: 1. Good (Appropriate) knowledge (Vijja) 2. Good (Appropriate) conduct (Carana) 5. The Virtues leading to the cessation of suffering: 1. Mental tranquillity (Samatha) 2. Spiritual insight (Vipassana) 6. The Two Virtues are reckoned as the cessation of suffering: 1. Knowledge (Vijja) 2. Release (Vimutti) 7. The Two Virtues for a good person: 1. Gratitude (Kalannuta) 2. Reciprocating the benefit rendered (Katavedita)
  4. Thank you for answering Lama Shenphen. Would you please tell me the other 10 virtues of the mind? i am still pondering shame. Your definition is different than i am used to and i am wondering about it. i think in western psychology/therapy shame and guilt are states to be overcome, let go of. They tend to immobilize people's growth. How does shame help our motivation without causing us to be stuck? i am stuck in my ngondro practice, not doing it, but i do not have shame. i am hopeless at times about my stuckness. Some days are better than others.
  5. Namaste Lama Shenphen, Could you please expand on this topic. i have not come across this before. i know you explained a little about shame and embarassment in another topic on this forum, but could you explain what would be shame (before the Buddhas)? And the other 10 virtues. tu jhe che
  6. Having said all that before, i found this very good article: Prison Dharma on the Edge by Kobutsu Malone at- http://www.buddhistchannel.tv/index.php?id...=8,2845,0,0,1,0 It is a complex issue. Some teachers have said that the 6 realms do exist in this world or are aspects of our own minds. So perhaps prisons are hell realms. Not an excuse, we do what we can. Pray for the inmates and guards and the victims and everybodies' families.
  7. At this site: http://www.liberationprisonproject.org/ they say they are helping 35,000 prisoners in 500 prisons in the USA. i believe them. Talking in generalizations gets you no where. You need to look at the persons, the real persons. It takes some victims as long or longer than the criminal to face the abuse. i appreciated what you said Wangmo. i was abused from age 10-17. i have been a Tibetan Buddhist for the last 4-5 years; before that 20 years as a zen Buddhist. i did not heal until 2 years ago. And i know others who live their pain daily and cannot see past it. And i have known criminals who refused to face their deeds. But, some took steps to entertain that there may be an alternative to violence. But, who would listen to me say "you must become non-violent, and make reparations to your victim." Or even, to the victim, "this too shall pass," or " you have to get over it in order to grow." i have learned that patience is part of compassion. We cannot force anyone to change. We give them support and time. And we keep our minds open. Even the monks and nuns who have survived torture in Chinese prisons have prayed for their captors. And we give ourselves support and time. It is a hard lesson to understand that your enemies are your greatest gifts. i still struggle with that. And i only encountered that practice in Buddhism. Many people don't know this at all.
  8. He is a zen Buddhist. Please do not judge until you know more, nor even then. He is someone's teacher. In fact a friend of mine's teacher. You can say this teacher does not speak to me; and i do not follow him. But, please don't defame what you don't know.
  9. i know a man who teaches meditation and yoga in a maximum security prison in South Dakota. i taught non-violent practice in medium and maximum security prisons in North Carolina and South Dakota for several years, men and women. There can be opportunities in that setting. And i think you must not discount the emotions of the victim, often a woman. She must pass through that too. And sometimes the justice system, though flawed, is a good recourse for her to deal with her pain and grow. i pray for the prey and the predator.
  10. The attitude is important i know on how i view the abuser. But there is also law that protects the victim and enables the criminal to work with their karma. Going to jail is an opportunity for the person to face their karma. We also have to prevent them from harming others. This worsens their karma. i don't see it as retribution. We also have to help the victim person. They can worsen their karma too with hate. It all takes patience and care and sometimes time. Healing does seem to take time.
  11. Most of the lamas i have met here in the states have been of Kagyu or Nyingmapa lineage and are westerners. Their teachers placed them in 3 year retreat and taught them during that time. When they emerged they were made lamas by their teachers. One lama i know, her teacher brought her out early to make her a lama before he died (he was a Tibetan). i have also met some monks of lharmapa and geshe levels who will call themselves lamas, all were Tibetan. It can be confusing. The Dalai Lama said something like examine your teacher for 12 (or 7) years before following them. For me that translate into watching their deeds and teachings and see if they speaks to me, or helps me. But, anyone can be your spiritual friend. If they help you, they help you. Tashi deleg
  12. Hi Namgyel, Well, a thorny situation you have. First, it is very sad to watch someone you care about slowly kill themselves. Second, it is scarey to think they want to take you with them. But, it is all unconscious on your roomate's part. Not an excuse for him though. You can only do what you can do. Find another roommate? Talk with him about why he is trying to hurt himself? Put all the ashtrays outside the apartment? Hah! Maybe, don't give up. And as a Buddhist it is sad to watch others increase their suffering. Hah! It is sad to watch ourselves increase our own suffering. But, we cannot avoid it. Tashi deleg
  13. i appreciate your generosity. i posted it on my group site. It's been quiet there, will see if anyone comments.
  14. i am also an ex-smoker Buddhist. i was foolish enough to start smoking before i started practicing. But, practice has helped greatly. Of course smoking is bad karma. We harm ourselves and others and the environment (air polution). And the smoker is working out an obstacle. i am grateful that i could quit.
  15. Hi Khyenrab from Iowa, USA i like this excerpt and would like to copy it and place on my group site. Would that be OK with you? There are several Theravedan practioners there, and i seem to have offended them by using the term Hinayana. i have been researching this problem ever since, and posting what i find.
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